When your depression finally lifts, you may have mixed feelings about what to make of the whole experience. Some mothers are embarrassed and feel guilty about how it affected their partner and family. Others are pragmatic, acknowledging that it is something that happens to a lot ofnew mothers. Unlikely as it may seem, it is possible that the depression can make a positive long-term difference to your life.
Going through PND can be a learning process and help you to come to terms with unresolved
issues, especially if you have had professional help. Some women say the experience has made them a more compassionate person and more aware of other people around them. They now look out for other mothers of multiples who are struggling, often by becoming actively involved in their local multiples club. You may be surprised at how many other people suffer from depression and how much you have to offer them, even if it is just a sympathetic ear. PND is not the end – there is life afterwards.
AFTER PND: One Mother’s Experience
“It has been very much ‘doom and gloom’, [but] I now have the most amazing relationship with my daughters. I love them to bits, am extremely proud of them and have many happy memories of their childhood. They, as everyone assured me at the time, are blissfully unaware of their traumatic start in life.”
Courtesy of Tamba - www.tamba.org.uk
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