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would love to know if there are any single mums out there who could give me a little bit of words of wisdom and maybe become a friend on this site as im new on here ?

Hi there

I’m 23-24 weeks pregnant and recently separated with my partner. A lot of this experience is in my pregnancy diary as I too wish single mums-to-be / mothers would be able to give that little bit of reassurance if possible. Either this or a magic want to made it all run smoother would be good!

Testing times ey? certainly harder than I imagined. Hoping time will heal, before little one is here! Also wishing you well and hoping things are amicable with you and your ex. Feel free to contact me any time if you need to chat to someone outside of situation, though in the same boat!

Lauren x

Hi there

I’m 23-24 weeks pregnant and recently separated with my partner. A lot of this experience is in my pregnancy diary as I too wish single mums-to-be / mothers would be able to give that little bit of reassurance if possible. Either this or a magic want to made it all run smoother would be good!

Testing times ey? certainly harder than I imagined. Hoping time will heal, before little one is here! Also wishing you well and hoping things are amicable with you and your ex. Feel free to contact me any time if you need to chat to someone outside of situation, though in the same boat!

Lauren x

I was a single parent with DD – I split with her father at 20ish weeks.

I can honestly say, that being a single parent to 1 isn’t that much hard work. You’ve only got yourself and baby to please, nobody to feel resentful towards if they aren’t pulling their weight and you can just go with the flow. The downsides are obviously having nobody to give you a break but as long as you have a support network in place, you’ll be fine. Don’t ever be afraid to say you need help or a break either, the very early days are obviously a lot harder but you soon get in to the swing of things.

Don’t worry, everything will be fine. Similarly, don’t concern yourself with getting your ex to play daddy, I wasted countless hours trying to get him to be there for DD and the reality is that babies are boring and men who aren’t part of their daily routine will struggle with them as they aren’t a primary carer. Safe to say, after a few visits of feeling useless (despite my encouragement) we haven’t heard from him since. That’s not to say this’ll happen in every situation but my experience and of those around me are pretty similar – men come in to their own with kids when they are older but then its often too late if you’re not together.

What I’m trying to say, in a roundabout way, is don’t concern yourself with other people, do what you need to to get by every day.

All the best x

To Nic23

That’s a very reassuring post. I split up with my boyfriend around 15 weeks and moved out into my own (and baby’s) new home. We actually appreciate each other more and the friendship is growing again, with less pressure on our shoulders. Who knows what the future will bring, but I’m definately going to seek support from other single mammys-to-be / parents.

L x